Q. I can’t stand Facebook anymore! I have a friend who floods my Facebook feed with annoying updates. She’s constantly complaining about everything or posting pictures of her pets. I stopped going on Facebook because I didn’t want to read any more of her status updates but then I missed checking in with my other Facebook friends.
I can’t unfriend her because I’m sure she would find out and never forgive me. Is there any way I can get my Facebook back without having my feed filled with her constant updates?
A. I completely understand. Everyone has that annoying Facebook friend whose feeds you would rather not see. People have very different ideas about what information is share-worthy on Facebook.
Ideally, your Facebook feed should be filled with posts from the people you care most about and who publish posts that are interesting and relevant to you. If you’re not liking Facebook, then it’s time to organize your feed.
There are several ways you can fix your flooded Facebook feed so you can enjoy the updates you want to see. By taking just a few minutes to organize your Facebook feed you can have a much more enjoyable Facebook experience.
You’re right about “unfriending” not being a perfect solution. While it might seem like the obvious cure, unfriending can be awkward if your friend discovers your deed. Feigning ignorance may not work if you’re blushing from the embarrassment of being caught.
“What? Unfriend you? I don’t think so. I’m not sure I even know how to do that,” you claim when you’re caught in the act.
You’ll only end up having to be friends with her again, which won’t solve the problem at all and will only cause hard feelings.
The person you unfriend will no longer be your Facebook friend and you won’t be in contact on Facebook. Your Facebook relationship is over.
Your relationship can become awkward if your friend finds out about your unfriending.
You may end up having to connect again on Facebook to save face if your friend discovers your unfriending maneuver.
You can block your friend so that nothing she posts appears in your feed. This solution is handy for the highly annoying friends whose updates make you cringe.
To block your annoying Facebook friend, hover your cursor over her post until you see an arrow in the upper right corner of the post. Click on that arrow to reveal a drop-down menu:
To block posts from that person, click on “I don’t want to see this.” You may be given other options such as blocking ads. Facebook will also ask you why you want to block that post:
If you block a friend, you never have to see that person’s posts in your feeds again.
They don’t know you blocked them.
You might miss an important post from that a person you’ve blocked.
A quick way of organizing your Facebook feed is by using the Acquaintance List feature. Facebook provides you with a ready-made Acquaintance List you can populate with friends you don’t want to hear from often. To make help you organize your friends easily, Facebook can suggest people to include in your Acquaintance List.
Head to Facebook Organize to see suggestions of people Facebook thinks belong on your Acquaintance List. These are people you haven’t interacted with in a long time.
Uncheck any people you want to keep as full-fledged friends and then click on Add to Acquaintances.
Friends don’t know that they have been added to your Acquaintance List.
You may be reminded of friends you want to reconnect with on Facebook.
You should monitor your list to make sure you still want that friend as an Acquaintance.
Managing Your Acquaintance List
You can add a friend to your Acquaintance List who wasn’t suggested by the Facebook Organize tool. To edit your Acquaintance List, go the left column of your Home page.
Hover your cursor on Friends then click on More to reveal your friends lists. (If you don’t see a Friends tab, click on More at the bottom of the column.)
Click on Acquaintances to reveal a page of posts from people on your Acquaintance List.
Near the top of the right column you will see a box that says “+Add friends to this list”. Type in your friend’s name and hit Enter.
You can see a full list of your Acquaintances from this page. In the upper left corner of the page, click on Manage List to reveal a drop down list.
Click Edit List to see a list of friends in your Acquaintance List.
For more information on organizing you friends on Facebook, see the Facebook Help page: Friends List.
Posting to Friends
One of the advantages of using the Acquaintance List is that you can restrict your posts to friends who are not on your Acquaintance List. If you want only your closer friends to see a post, click the box that says “Friends” or “Public”, which ever is your default category, to reveal the drop-down menu.
Choose “Friends except Acquaintances” to prevent your post from showing on the feeds of your Acquaintance List friends.
After you create an Acquaintance List, you can share that with all of your friends on Facebook, or share it with all of your friends except your Acquaintances.
My advice? Don’t brag about this feat.
No one wants to entertain the thought that their posts aren’t important to you and that they were demoted from being your friend to being your Acquaintance. If you want to tell people about how easy it is to make Acquaintance Lists then share this article with them instead.
Also see, The Wonder of Tech, Scrub Your Facebook Clean.
Is your Facebook feed so cluttered that you miss important posts? Have you ever been frustrated by an annoying friend on Facebook? Have you ever been caught unfriending someone? Have you ever blocked anyone? Have you filled your Acquaintance List? Let us know in the Comments section below!